Finally figured out what the problem was and got it working without using SSL :) It was a longshot but i tried this registry hack posted on technet
http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/bb124604(EXCHG.65).aspx
Wish i would have found this 10 hours ago! Basically I followed these directions and manually added a new key...hope this helps out anyone else with a similar issue.
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To configure the RPC proxy server to allow for SSL offloading on a separate server
On the RPC proxy server, start Registry Editor (Regedit).
In the console tree, locate the following registry key:
HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\Software\Microsoft\Rpc\RpcProxy
Create a DWORD value with the name AllowAnonymous.
Right-click the AllowAnonymous DWORD value, and select Modify.
In the Value data field, enter 1.
Important:
On the RPC virtual directory security settings in Internet Information Services (IIS), under Authentication methods, verify that the check box next to Enable anonymous access is cleared.
Restart the World Wide Web Publishing Service (W3SVC) in the services snap-in to Microsoft Management Console (MMC).